Best advice on planning ahead?
At my house, the calendar is one step in a bigger annual process. We begin by reflecting on the past year’s highs & lows to make sure we learn from our past and use those lessons to make the next year even better. Inevitably that conversation leads us to want to make sure we repeat fun and important things (e.g., ski trips= fun, mammograms= important) so we make sure to pencil those things in. We also seek to understand why the lows happened and why they felt low, always looking for opportunities to learn and adjust in the new year. From there we go through this list to make sure we cover our bases:
Holidays
Important birthdays & anniversaries
Weddings / Graduations / Baby Due Dates
Community service
Running races
1:1 date nights with kids and each other
Music and cultural events
School calendar
Visitors we plan to host
People we plan to visit with
Important annual doctors appts
Seasonal family vacations (winter, spring, summer & fall)
Staycations at home
Personal days
Long weekends
Quickly, it becomes clear that the days are numbered and the year fills up fast. The discipline to fill out the calendar (even if just in pencil) thoughtfully in advance helps us remember that it is so important to make time for things we value because the days are going to pass by quickly whether we actively plan them or not. Taking this deliberate approach lets us be thoughtful about how the days are filled (or not).
For me, an introvert who recharges by being alone, the blank spaces are almost as important as the days we fill in. I know I need a lot of white space to be creative and to stay connected to myself. I also like to leave open space for serendipity.
It’s important to remember and respect that our plans are just a starting point. Sometimes the universe may have other plans for us. Sometimes we may change our minds. Often things don’t go to plan. Being open to adjusting or erasing is part of the process.